BounceBack with a NEW Birthday for Yourself!

by Amanda Russell

You may have a broken heart, but YOU as a person are not broken. I make this point because I know it can feel like the end of the world when your heart is broken, but the truth is, the world keeps going, and you are still alive and still breathing, and you still have what it takes to be a strong, happy individual. I know this is not what we want to hear, but it is something we have to hear, once we have wallowed in our own grief and felt sorry for ourselves and cried and shouted, or whatever it is you do, it is time to pick yourself back up.

After I went through a particularly tough time, it was my dad who gave me the best advice, he said, in a way that only my dad can “You are not dead, you have other aspects of yourself that you now have the opportunity to explore, you were a person before this happened and you know that you are capable of being happy, so get out there and start living”. Not easy to hear, but this was my ‘aha’ moment.

It is easy to let yourself spiral down a slippery slope and keep reminiscing on what you’ve lost, how your life could be different, yada, yada…., but all of this thinking will do you NO GOOD, you will just deteriorate emotionally and physically.
I have dedicated my life to helping people overcome obstacles and feel better about themselves, and I am committed to sharing my advice, secrets and answering all of your questions, but I wanted to start this month with this simple ‘aha’ lesson I found very helpful in overcoming any heartbreak:

Give yourself a NEW Birthday!

Yes, that’s right, I’m telling you to decide on a new birthday for yourself (you don’t actually have to tell anyone, this is for you alone)

What to do: Give yourself an expiry date on self-pity, and set an actual kickstart date, or ‘birthday’ for yourself to start your new life. A day when you will emerge and refuse to wallow, you will force yourself to start and endure the day with a positive attitude. Be fresh and open to the possibilities that will come your way if you let them.

Start to think about things you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t had time for because you were so consumed in your relationship. Perhaps you always wanted to try painting, or maybe there’s a book club you’d like to join now that you have Wednesday evenings free?

Of coarse, regardless of what you choose to explore, I recommend starting a new fitness regimen above all else. I know you may think I’m biased because fitness is one of my biggest passions, but I just can’t begin to tell you all the benefits this will have on you, from making you look and feel better, to meeting new people, to spending your time in a positive way, I could go on forever, but I will follow up in more detail on this subject but I just couldn’t help but throw it out there. For now, check out my website for inspiration and workout ideas you can do anywhere:

Bottom line, set that date to get your ‘game’ back on!

My perfect ‘new birthday’ would include waking up, going for a run or walk while listening to some empowering tunes (great run routine to sweat out the hard stuff, along with the fat:, then getting dressed in an outfit that makes me feel ’ hot’.

I would make myself a healthy high protein breakfast (gotta love this high protein, mood boosting breakfast smoothie: and then spend some time that day researching a new fitness program ( or class to sign up for, and one other club or activity I’d like to try. I might even head to my favorite shops to find a new top or dress to celebrate the ‘new me’.

I know it’s easier said than done, but nothing truly worth it is easy – so I challenge you to try and let me know what your new birth ‘day’ includes!



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